Is it ever okay to date an unbeliever? what if a person is not a believer but has good morals and is a good person, can a christian date them then? what is it to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever? what does the bible say about the issue?
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25 responses to Should Christians Date Unbelievers?
@Mrbaltimore2001 what u said is truly possible… ck out my video on this very notion of being unequally yoked even with other “Christians”
Also…it is an impossibility to understand the life and walk of a Holy Ghost filled person, to try and even compare it with an unsaved person. Jesus, that walked this earth lives inside each person who has been TRULY saved. We don’t compare a “nice” person with a Holy person. It is non-comparable. The spirit of Christ in us has made us a NEW creature, not a better nice person. So there’s an astronomical life difference in the saved vs. the unsaved. And again, He warned us of doubtful disputes..
@kwolf43 just ‘cos someone says they are a believer, doesnt mean they are.
I’m saved, and have also grown up in the church. Through out the course of my life (29 years old), having visited both small, large, and mega churches. What I have found is a lot of “saved” people are just to super spiritual.
I’ve done work in the church, and have worked around saved people in Chirst, and many us are just as jacked up, as those who have not accepted Christ.
@matapaga you are trying to go off your own rightness you can not get to heaven with out having a relationship with Jesus Christ. God’s rightness and ours rightness is nothing when god looks a ust if you lie, cheat,lust,greedy, drunkenness, you do this one time you would still go to hell my friend it is also written Isaiah 64:6 But we are all as an unclean thing, and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags; and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away.
preach it. god bless brother.
So the believer is good and the unbeliever is bad , I will say other wise just take a good look at believer’s and prove me wrong.
The video makes an important point: you don’t get to pick and choose what rules you’ll follow.
If you are a believer, and you understand that *all* the Bible’s rules apply to you, then a) you may never have sex outside of marriage, full stop. (There are many, many “Christians” in the U.S. who somehow think that rule does not apply to them–2/3 of black babies have unwed parents.)
Further, b) all Deuteronomy’s rules apply to you. So you *must* kill a stubbornly rebellious son, period. Etc.
@NightHawkBomber001 There are no “very good people.” All are wretched, sinful and fall short of the mark. Believer and unbeliever. This has nothing to do with the reason to avoid unequal yolking. Marrying an unbeliever = bondage for a Christian. Better to burn in singleness than marry for the sake of sexual desire. A true believer would be tormented with the idea of marrying an unbeliever, as it equates to marrying the world. “We’re talking about a clash of kingdoms here…..” This guy has it
@Tips4ChristianDating most christians tend to imply something more than ignorance when they speak of darkness and light as it implies good and evil.
@tango9jeff I have to correct you, you dont seem to understand the work of Christ. If you have accepted Christ as saviour, you are no longer a “sinner destined for failure” as you put it. “if anyman be in Christ he is a new creature old things have passed away and all things have become new” – 2 corinthians 5:17 – in fact the bible says that we are now ” the righteousness of God in Christ” and therefore we must live accordingly and show God we love him through obedience to his laws
@NightHawkBomber001 I dont make the two categories, the bible does and darkness simply refers to anyone who hasnt accepted christ because they remain in the dark about the deception of the enemy and how the enemy has tricked mankind out of what God originally intended for us – bringing mankind into a state of darkness. Jesus came to restore what the enemy tricked us out of and give us back the light – knowledge of our rightful position and Godly inheritance
@Tips4ChristianDating Also, Why say if your not willing to obey all the laws “why be a christian” We are sinners. It is our destiny to fail. This is the whole point Of Christ. But yes obedience goes hand in hand with faith but to be a christian and have your own threshold of failure is just like anyone else within the world. I like any other sinner still follow Christ because he is the truth and the light. Not because of my record of obedience.
@Tips4ChristianDating I’d like to state I’m a Christ follower. Been so for years. I agree with what your saying but not for the same reasons. Gods word also clearly states that obedience to the law does not provide salvation. Its your actual heart/soul/spirit faith in Christ. So the real reason to not date a non Christ follower is to understand the eternal death that would await them and the dividing line in your own purpose.
My boyfriend is a Christian/Catholic and I’m not religious, HOWEVER i respect my boyfriend’s beliefs. When he found out i wasn’t religious he was devastated and it caused many arguments between us. He automatically suggested that i was less of a good person because of my own beliefs. I believe in God, however, I myself am not Christian, however my family are.
Can Christians be friends with non-believers? I was at a sermon where the preacher said that it is okay because Jesus was friends with saints as well as sinners. As long as you’re engaged in an exchange that is pleasing to God it’s possible. Perhaps it is an opportunity to evangelize. Random question: if you listen to secular music, but the artist is a Christian and you’re a huge fan, should you not listen to it?
Being friends with non-believers I think is fine because it’s not a lifelong commitment and I think Christians can use that as an opportunity to evangelize if God sees fit. In marriage, though, you need to be matched spiritually because down the road it can cause problems.
So what about being friends with people who haven’t committed to God yet? Do you use this is an opportunity to evangelize or give them the cold shoulder? I had a pastor that once said Jesus was friends with saints as well as sinners. I don’t think it necessarily means you need to be partying and drinking with your non-saved friends but you can hang out in nice environments and talk about appropriate things using appropriate language right? Not every Christian is easily shaken by sinners and I t
Christians should not be divided into divisions or denominations. The bible says that we should all speak the same thing.
Honestly this just seems like shallow advice, Hows the break up going to go?
“Honey I love everything about you… except you don’t share my beliefs… I know it seems somewhat shallow to want you to change even though your respectful and understanding of my beliefs and love me. You are a wonderful person but.. well I’m light and your darkness the two just don’t mix…”
I’m not sure how you make two categories (light and darkness) where there are some “unbelievers” who are indeed very good.
Heyy I am dating a Christian..
and well he totally broke up with
me because of my life style..But what i do not understand is that..okay yes this may be gods word..but i thought he does not control free will?? and if he doesnt then why in the heck is he trying to tell us howw to live? i have a relationship with God that I am working on but i just dont understand this…I think like a christian but im not one. @matapaga I dont get why we gota be kingdom of darkness either…
Thanks a bunch for regurgitating the words of God, it gives us strengh to stay focus on our godly life. now i have a question, so we shouldnt date an unchristian if we know they are not willing to receive jesus christ in their life. but for some reason i always think that i could change a person through jesus christ but now i come to realize that only the person could change his/her ownself. but how do we get unbelievers into Christ then? could you address a video on clubbing too.
god bless
@Iceream1 you can’t confuse your poor judgment in choosing a mate (that led you into more sin) with God’s conviction that you should not date a non-believer. it was not the non-believer that led you into more sin, it was the particular person you “fell in love” with that did, in addition to your own choices to be led down that path. again, it’s not about believer and non-believer, it’s about finding someone who respects you and your moral standards.
this question is not a matter of believer or a non-believer. it’s a matter of respect in a relationship. i know of several couples who make things work despite differences in spirituality because they RESPECT the other’s right to believe the way they choose. if you have a rigid belief system and won’t budge on them, you should date people with the same morals, otherwise your cultural differences will clash. however, ANYONE can grow in a different direction through time, nothing is guaranteed
Good Job with tha vid The word of God is true and its used for hope, inspiration, correction and rebuke. We all need Patience but man God is awesome he will come thru we gota jus be obedient n blessings will follow. In a unchanging world Gods word remains the same . I was in this position i was dating an unbeliever and God convicted me of it and i left dat relationship which led me into more sin. & Christianity def is nt a religion good point
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